Social psychology researcher, Arthur Aron, along with his team of psychologists, carried out experiments to understand just what it is that makes people love each other. They came up with a set of questions that guarantee that the participants will fall in love. So now, you can actually sit down over coffee, claim to play a fun little game, and come out the winner at the end of it. Honest to gods!
陌生人之间互问一系列问题，问完之后他们就会变得更加亲密。源于生活大爆炸S8E16.
Here's the list of questions. It should take you maximum 45 minutes to get through them all!
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第一组
世界上任何一个人都能选，你会想要选谁来做晚餐客人？
你想成为名人吗？什么样的名人？
在打电话前你会排练你将要说什么吗？为什么？
哪些事会组成你的“完美”的一天？
你上一回给自己唱歌是什么时候？你上一回给别人唱歌是什么时候？
如果你能够活到90岁并在人生的后60年保留30岁的心智或30岁的身体，你会选择哪一个？
你有一个关于你会如何死去的秘密预感吗？
说出三个你和你的搭档似乎有的相同之处。
你对你人生中的什么最感到感恩？
如果你能改变你是如何被抚养长大的，你会改变什么？
在四分钟内告诉你的搭档你的人生故事，越多细节越好。
如果你能某天早上醒来具有某种品质或能力，那会是什么？
第二组
如果一个水晶球能够告诉你关于你，你的人生，你的将来的任何事情，你会想要知道什么？
有没有一件你很长时间以来都梦想去做的事情？你为什么还没有去做？
你人生的最大成就是什么？
你在一段友谊中最在乎的是什么？
你最珍惜的记忆是什么？
你最糟糕的记忆是什么？
如果你知道一年内你会突然过世，你会改变任何你现在的生活方式吗？为什么？
友谊对你而言意味着什么？
爱和友情在你人生中充当着什么样的角色？
轮流分享你认为你的搭档所拥有的积极的性格特点，一共说五点。
你的家庭有多紧密和温暖？你觉得你的童年生活比别的大多数人的要更开心吗？
你如何看待你与你母亲之间的关系？
第三组
说出三个“我们”相关的正确的陈述。比方说，“我们两个都在这个房间里，都感到......”
将这句话补充完整：“我希望我能有一个可以和我分享......的人。”
如果你和你的搭档成为亲密的朋友，请分享给她／他很有必要知道的事情。
告诉你的搭档你喜欢他们什么；这次，非常诚实地说出你可能不会给一个刚认识的人说的事情。
给你的搭档分享一个你的人生中很尴尬的瞬间。
你上一回在别人面前哭是什么时候？自己哭是什么时候？
告诉你的搭档一件你已经喜欢他们的事。
如果有的话，什么事是严肃到不能拿来开玩笑的？
如果你今晚就要离世，没有能够和任何人沟通的机会，你会最后悔没有给什么人说什么事？你为什么还没有给他们说呢？
你的房子着火了，里面有你拥有的所有东西。在救出了你的爱人和宠物后，你有时间安全地冲进去最后一趟去救任何一件物品。那件物品会是什么？为什么？
你全家所有人中，谁的离世会让你感到最烦闷？为什么？
分享一个私人的问题并询问你的搭档的建议，看他／她会如何处理这个问题。而且，让你的搭档反映你看上去对你所提出的这个问题是怎么想的。
带着友善凝视彼此4分钟。
Set I
Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?
Would you like to be famous? In what way?
Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?
What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?
When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?
If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?
Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?
Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.
For what in your life do you feel most grateful?
If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.
If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?
Set II
If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?
Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?
What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?
What do you value most in a friendship?
What is your most treasured memory?
What is your most terrible memory?
If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?
What does friendship mean to you?
What roles do love and affection play in your life?
Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.
How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?
How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?
Set III
Make three true "we" statements each. For instance, "We are both in this room feeling ..."
Complete this sentence: "I wish I had someone with whom I could share ..."
If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.
Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.
Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.
When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?
Tell your partner something that you like about them already.
What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?
If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?
Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?
Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?
Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.
In order to solidify your love, you have to look into your partner's eyes for four minutes. In silence. It's hard, and you'll squirm, but you'll learn an incredible amount. Good luck…
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